How to Persuade Your Partner!
Let’s face it, most initiatives are started by males.
There are exceptions of course, however in the vast majority of
cases it’s the guys that come up with the idea...
If the female is the one with the initiative or if both
of you are convinced about pursuing the fantasy,
you’re one step ahead.
However if you’d like to experience a and you’ve never
discussed it with your partner, you might need some guidelines to help
you persuading her into participating in your fantasy.
The first thing that you’ve got to take into consideration is that
women place high values on the pair-bond.
Women are very apprehensive of anyone and anything threatening the health
and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner.
For most women, a carries risks she’s not eager to accept.
The first giant obstacle you’ll face will be to overcome her insecurity.
Besides the social conditioning she was raised with, there are some
obstacles that need to be cleared before she can be enthusiastic
about inviting someone else into an intimate session.
Any woman who truly cares about you worries about the relationship,
with all the classic fears and uncertainty about your love.
You have to understand that she often asks herself;
“Does he love me fully?”
“Does he love only me?”
“Does he really like me the way I am?”
“Am I woman enough to keep him satisfied?”
“Will he leave me for a younger/firmer/prettier woman?”
Filled with uncertainty and jealously she will defend her turf against all possible threats.
The only responsible person to ease the above mentioned issues is the
male in the relationship. Happy, secure, confident women aren’t very jealous.
What Behavior Triggers Her Insecurity?
If your partner is jealous, the root might stem from your own behavior.
If you recognize yourself in some of this behavior, your partner has every right
to feel insecure about your relationship:
You’ve frequently expressed your dissatisfaction about her
You constantly criticize her and never compliment her
You flirt with every cute woman you see
You stay out all night from time to time
You’ve habitually expressed your discontent with your life and your relationship
You only touch her while having sex and you don’t express your love often
You’ve threatened to leave her
Any of these types of behavior will rapidly turn into insecurity,
resentment and a constant jealousy. The insecure woman's worst nightmare is
another female in her life and the last thing she’ll do is invite another woman
into your bed.
Remember: your partner has to feel very secure of your relationship
before she grants you a threesome.
So make sure you never threaten your relationship. It doesn’t matter
how angry or upset you become. She needs to know that you guys
are an item and nothing will ever break your bond.
If you want her to be sexually confident, you must work very hard to
make her secure in your love. If you’re serious about taking your sex life
to a level where a can occur you’ll need to make your partner so
happy, so positive, so confident and so secure in your love that she’s
unafraid to share you with another woman.
Additional
Resources
Sex amoungs Women in the Orient
By Jane
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Getting To Know Swingers And How They Think
By David Yuri
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class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN-TOP: 0px; MARGIN-BOTTOM: 0px; MARGIN-LEFT: 54pt; TEXT-INDENT: -18pt; TEXT-ALIGN: left">Compliment her and show her how much you love her on a regular base.
Write her a loving card, buy her flowers, cuddle up with her on the sofa,
whisper in her ear how beautiful she is; there are lot’s of small things you
can do that have major positive impacts. Feeling loved, accepted and secure
are powerful female aphrodisiacs. She’ll be much more loving if she feels
you’re happy with her.
Avoid silly remarks about her looks at all costs, especially if they’re things
that she cannot change. Avoid telling her that she’s fat. Instead of making
negative remarks, try to compliment her as often as possible.
Don’t flirt with her friends unless you’ve got her approval. If she believes your
threesome is just a devious plot to bonk her best friend, you’ve got no chance of
ever pulling it off.
Before you tell her about your intentions of having a threesome,
you must be sure she’s certain that a isn’t threatening
her relationship with you.
It may very well be that your lover fantasizes about a too, but has been
afraid or embarrassed to admit it. Contrary to men, women seldom speak to the point
and often beat around the bush before telling you what they actually want. If you want
her to talk about her fantasies, you can encourage her by:
Listening to her. Magic words for women are "Interesting, please tell me more."
Then all you need to do is shut up, listen and learn.
Being supportive of her opinions and ideas. If you criticize or invalidate her,
she’ll not reveal her private thoughts.
Affirming that you consider all her desires to be perfectly normal.
Acknowledge her fantasies.
Making her more receptive to your fantasy by assuring her that bisexual desires
don’t depreciate her value as a lifelong partner. Tell her that diverse fantasies
make her more interesting, alluring and captivating as a sexual partner.
No pushing her into something that scares her. Allow her to become accustomed
to the idea. Let her explore the thoughts with you. Women work out their problems
by discussing them; encourage her to talk to you.
Females are much more fined tuned when it comes to using the right words.
A common mistake from males when attempting to persuade their partners
is to use the wrong the words or the right words at the wrong time.
For example, if she fantasizes about having a with a male friend,
insensitive guys ask things like: “Would you like to suck his cock?” or
“Would you like to feel his dick up your ass?”
This is a normal thing to say for a guy, but I can assure you that this
type of vocabulary is not appreciated by women.
If she mentions that she fancies a with a female friend, an
insensitive guy might be silly enough to ask “Would you like taste her pussy?”
or “Would you like her to suck yours?” These kinds of comments go too far, too
fast, too soon. In some cases, I know of guys disclosing their fantasies saying
things like this: “I’d like to have sex with two women at once.” As you can
imagine this won’t go down so well with her. It’s always better to say:
“I’d like to share you with another woman.” This confirms you’re
not replacing her and she’s still the center of your world.
One very important point: when she asks you who that woman would be,
your best bet is not to mention any name. Tell her the choice would be hers.
This removes any suspicion that you have already done “research" on your
project and eases her fear that you want someone she doesn’t like.
Besides, this’ll also get her involved in the process.
From the moment you’ve cleared this issue,
arranging a will be a piece of cake!
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